So what happened? This is the question that you'd like me to give you the answer. If I tell you, that you already know the answer. If I tell you that you are already aware of why your relationship ended. Look, everyone breaks up, there is no perfect relationship and to be honest, you do not want it to be perfect, because it will be too fake. You want some arguments, this is when you know the other person cares. When people do not argument, they let everything accumulate, grow inside and then explode. And when it explodes, you are where you are right now. End of the relationship. You can not really dictate why and how all this happened. You will try to digest the cause and effect of the process and try to determine what could of been avoided. You must of hear the phrase: "hey its not working out, let be friends or take a break".
Some reason for break up are obvious, which is infidelity, but then again, this can also be overcome. There are ways to go around that dreadful conversation that you found out your spouse had an affair. We will talk about that later. Now, since opposite sex have different reasons why they leave the relationship, lets tackle one by one.
Why will the men leave the relationship? Well, because they are no longer getting the attention or effort that they use to get from their spouse. Lets face it ladies. In the beginning, you use to always get yourself sexy and prepped before heading out on a date with your significant other. Use to stay in shape, wear sexy lingerie and have enough make up not too look like lady Gaga but enough to show us you made the effort to look great for us. So when all this stops, it shows that the motivation to look nice and sexy is gone, it's not caring about how we feel towards you. You start wearing sweats around the house, look like you just woke up but its 3:00 pm in the afternoon, not caring about being in shape, start developing a muffin top in your tummy, and basically letting you go.
Now if that is not enough to push your spouse away, you start busting their chops about everything and anything. Here, the male will start looking for something else. Someone that is better, someone that is sexy, someone that respect them and make the effort to look nice for them. This is how and why the male decide to step out of the relationship and move towards another one. Obviously, this approach will not fix the issue, because whoever they decide to go with, may end up the same way, means that the chosen women will always decide to let herself go also once she feels the relationship is stable. Then the whole cycle starts all over again.
The key to this scenario is that male crave admiration, they need to know their mate admire what they do, how they make things work so it creates a serene environment for the couple. You, the women, need to always let your man know that he is wanted and admire, all the time, or he might look for that admiration from someone else. It is up to you to make a difference. Men do not leave because of someone that is prettier or thinner or look like she came out of the playboy mansion. He is looking for a void that you created at home, a void that he craves so much that he is willing to take a risk to jeopardize a lifelong relationship. Man are creatures of habits, and it is up to you to provide that constant positive feedback so you can make sure to keep them by your side.
Now, this is the perspective of the women. Why do women leave their spouse?
Now men, this one is for you. Why do women leave? Lack of appreciation. Not that it is about a them being high maintenance, which for many men, a high maintenance women is equal to needing Donald Trump bank account to make her happy. High maintenance means a lot, especially when it comes to emotional high maintenance. They do not need the attention primarily, but they need you to tell them how you appreciate them. It is all about communication. When a women cheat, they end up being in the arms of what we call DonJuan or Casanovas. These are the type of men who showers your lady with attention, give them what they need and at the end gets what they need, which is sex with your wife / girlfriend. Yes, you heard me. Now, they first start being an open ear, listen to your wife issues, and show empathy.
Then they go for the gold. They offer them special attention, say how bad a husband you are, how this or that and they go for the kill. Obviously, these DonJuans or Casanovas loves the fact that the women is in relationship with you, but when the women decide to either break up or divorce, the DonJuan start feeling overwhelmed by the divorcecee wanting to be with them and decide to dump them like they dumped their husband. Karma is a BITCH. Remember ladies, the Grass is not greener on the other side, and falling for these donjuans or Casanovas will come back and bite you in the ass. Then you will realize that your husband was not that bad of a men, and if you are lucky enough, your husband might take you back. Believe me though, you will need to work your butt off to make this marriage work, because you've broken your trust and that is hard to get back.
Women and man feel differently after an affair in the relationship. The men will lose all admiration towards the women, but the women feels differently. It will be more likely that a women will not end a relationship after an affair or actually try her best to make it work with her spouse. As long as the men shows her appreciation or that he still wants her, she will do her best to make it work.
Millions of women out there knows that their husband are having affair and they choose not to leave because they feel that their husband shows lots of appreciation towards them. For most women, loyalty honest and faithfullness can be secondary to them as long as their spouse is showing motivation and love. When its the women who cheats, the women ever discover that the man she is with is ever BETTER then the man she had an affair with. The way that happens will be explained in the later article. Remember, if you want your marriage to work, you need to make a CHANGE. The ONLY person you can change is yourself, and once you accomplish that, your significant other will notice these changes and will adapt themselves to them. Do not worry, your marriage or relationship still has a chance to survive, and I will help you get to it.