If cheating is a “crime of opportunity,” one of the biggest threats could be your husband’s workplace. After all, it takes time to get to know people well enough to consider having an affair. Granted, there are exceptions to this rule and perfect strangers have been known to connect instantly, but this is usually the exception.
If you suspect your husband is cheating, chances are it’s with someone that he has known, or has gotten to know, over a period of time. Since he spends most of his day around other co-workers or customers, it’s natural that he has become friendly with some. Over time this relationship could easily result in more than friendship.
Here’s 5 easy ways to find out if your husband is having an affair at work:
1. Call him during lunch. If he’s always out, he could be spending some quality time with a certain co-worker.
2. Suggest meeting him for lunch as he’s heading out the door in the morning. This is very effective as it doesn’t give him time to cancel any previous plans. If he is constantly making excuses, you could have cause for concern. Also, watch for any unexplained signs of anger.
3. Surprise him by showing up at his work and offering to take him out to lunch. Be careful here and don’t make a habit of this. You don’t want to appear as though you’re stalking him. Watch for signs of anger, frustration, and embarrassment.
4. If the situation is desperate, you could try spying on him at work. Find out when and where he takes his lunch. Watch him as he leaves the office for the day. Keep in mind that this is an extreme measure and should not be taken lightly. Ultimately, you have to ask yourself if it’s morally acceptable. How will you explain yourself if you get caught?
5. Get information from his cell phone. If he’s having an affair, it’s almost guaranteed that he’ll be using his cell phone to communicate with the other woman at some point. Now, if he’s smart he’ll erase the evidence before he comes home; but eventually everyone slips up. Write down numbers from his address book, speed dial, and recent inbound and outbound calls. Use The White Pages website to find out the name and address for each land line number. If it is a cell number (most likely), use a service that specializes in providing current information, such as name and address, for each number.