Whenever I see an article about divorce, or watch a news or current affair report about life of divorceses it always looks to focus on the woman's match and not any problems of men. Divorce & depression are partners for men after a marriage fails and recent reports have claimed that men take divorce a lot harder than women for a number of reasons.
These reasons are usually linked with women's ability to develop social networks that allow them to get the support, advice and help they need while men often do not have these things and try to be stoic in the face of a massively changed life with emotional turmoil building inside them. Marriage problems and the divorce often lead to one prominent emotional issue which is depression.
While there are extensive numbers of books written on depression you can find some good practice advice you can use straight away include:
- Breaking down your problems into smaller pieces – Sometimes the divorce and problems after the event all pile up and can become unbearable making it depressing and overwhelming. Since there is no way back and no way out although you must start sorting your issues into smaller manageable chunks and just work at one at a time or the task may seem to be too much.
- Do not focus on the negatives – This is probably the hardest thing to do when you are depressed and it is impossible to stop thinking about negative things. However to less the problems you must find good things and focus on them even if they seem too small to make a difference against the negatives. The trick is though it is like breaking your problems into smaller chunks … after a while you have collected enough good positive feelings, thoughts and emotions that they can start to make an impact … never let go of the good things and actions you take!
- Have a goal – Men are very good at setting goals to achieve and we are biologically built to solve problems. Sometimes we do this in the most appropriate way mind you but if we have the right tools we can build anything! With this in mind even if depression does strike you having something to do is important, it could be a life goal, an emotional goal or even a physical goal it does not matter. Achieving something makes men feel good at assists again depression and negative thinking.